GABRIELLA POMARE

ABOUT GABRIELLA

Lawyer. Author. Speaker. Commentator. Podcast Host.

With nearly two decades of experience observing the pivotal moments when communication, relationships, and families reach a breaking point, Gabriella Pomare stands out as an award-winning author, family lawyer, keynote speaker, podcast host, and media commentator. Her work uniquely navigates the complexities of modern family life, communication, conflict, and human behaviour.

For close to twenty years, Gabriella has offered insights into relationships that few ever witness. As a family lawyer, she has supported individuals at the moment when private troubles can no longer be ignored — when resentment has set in, trust has diminished, communication has faltered, families are evolving, and critical life-altering decisions are made, often when individuals feel least equipped.

Driven by her curiosity, Gabriella became fascinated by the myriad of factors that precede these breaking points. She reflects on postponed conversations, growing frustrations, the emotional distances that remain unnamed, and the changes that transition parenthood brings. Her investigations delve into understanding emotional resilience in relationships, noting how small disagreements can escalate into significant conflicts if left unaddressed.

This curiosity forms the basis of Gabriella's work beyond the courtroom. Today, through her books, keynote speaking engagements, media commentary, and the podcast Before It Breaks, she translates the lessons learned from moments of breakdown to seek proactive approaches — fostering earlier communication, better conflict navigation, and deeper relationship understanding before crises develop.

Her first book, The Collaborative Co-Parent, provides insights into post-separation dynamics while encouraging families to rebuild around children instead of conflict. The forthcoming second book, Before It Breaks: A Modern Guide to Love, Conflict, Repair, and the Conversations That Change Everything, shifts focus to the quieter moments before a breakdown, illuminating the importance of engaging in conversations and recognizing patterns to make informed choices.

Gabriella also frequently shares her insights as a media commentator on modern family life, relationships, dating, separation, and co-parenting, blending professional expertise with a keen awareness of the contemporary shifts brought by work, technology, social media, and changing social norms.

In every speaking engagement, although the specific topics may vary, the core question remains the same: What conversation are we avoiding that we need to have before it escalates and becomes harder to fix?

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What can we learn before things break?

For almost two decades as a family lawyer, Gabriella Pomare has come to understand the dynamics at play when communication falters, resentment builds, trust shifts, and relationships — whether personal, familial, or professional — find themselves under immense pressure.

This experience has prompted a vital question: What if we applied the lessons learned at these breaking points much earlier?

Why do intelligent people stop listening to one another?  

Why do we avoid conversations that we know we need to have?  

What leads to the quiet buildup of resentment?  

Why does disagreement escalate into conflict?  

How do various factors like work, parenthood, technology, or ambition reshape the relationships around us?  

And why do we frequently postpone honest discussions until a relationship is already nearing breakdown?  

These questions now underpin Gabriella's books, podcast, and speaking engagements.

MEDIA

Relationships. Dating. Family Law. Modern Family Life.

As a regular commentator in various media formats — including television, radio, print, and podcasts — Gabriella provides insightful, contemporary perspectives on modern family life, relationships, separation, dating, co-parenting, and the evolving cultural landscape that shapes how we love and connect.

Gabriella discusses a range of topics, including:

- Modern relationships;  

- Dating culture;  

- Emotional affairs;  

- Relationship burnout;  

- Marriage and separation;  

- Family law;  

- Co-parenting;  

- Motherhood;  

- Mental load;  

- Celebrity relationships and divorce;  

- Social media and relationships;  

- AI and intimacy;  

- Modern family structures;  

- Work, ambition, and relationships.

Her commentary is informed by nearly two decades of experience in family law, combined with her roles as an author, speaker, and commentator on contemporary relationships and culture.

[MEDIA & COMMENTARY]

RELATIONSHIPS

Before It Breaks.

Modern love is intricate. Gabriella investigates emotional disconnection, relationship burnout, resentment, emotional affairs, the mental load of motherhood, intimacy challenges, the intertwining of work and relationships, and the critical conversations that often occur too late.

Her work delves into what transpires before a relationship is pushed to crisis and explores the possibilities that arise when we understand these patterns earlier.

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SPEAKING

Communication before conflict escalates to crisis.

Gabriella speaks at the crossroads of communication, conflict, relationships, and human behaviour. Her keynotes cover hard conversations, her Four Pillars of Communication, conflict resolution, workplace relationships, and the underlying human behaviours that lead to breakdown.

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BOOKS

Relationships before and after breakdown.

Gabriella is the author of The Collaborative Co-Parent and the upcoming Before It Breaks: A Modern Guide to Love, Conflict, Repair, and the Conversations That Change Everything. Together, these books address both the prelude to relationship breakdown and the journey of families rebuilding afterward.

BEFORE IT BREAKS

A Modern Guide to Love, Conflict, Repair, and the Conversations That Change Everything.

Most relationships don’t end in one sudden event. They evolve gradually — through the conversations left unspoken, the resentment ignored, the intimacy that fades, and the work that takes precedence. Gabriella's new book, Before It Breaks, poses an essential question about relationship dynamics:  

Not just:

Why did it end?  

But:

What occurred before it did?  

By discussing emotional affairs, the challenges of motherhood, the impact of work, and the nature of intimacy, Before It Breaks serves as a modern guide for comprehending the internal workings of relationships before a crisis prompts decisions that change everything.

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BEFORE IT BREAKS — THE PODCAST

The conversations that people often fear to voice.

Hosted by Gabriella Pomare, Before It Breaks dives deep into modern relationships and the period leading up to breakdowns. Through solo episodes, audience queries, and candid dialogues with guests, Gabriella examines emotional affairs, relationship burnout, resentment, motherhood, intimacy, and the difficult realities of staying or leaving.

This isn't about perfect relationships or saving every bond — it's about grasping the underlying issues while there is still value in having those crucial conversations.

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CO-PARENTING

The Collaborative Co-Parent

CO-PARENTING

Two Homes. One Family.  

Separation reshapes a family but doesn’t have to destroy it. Through The Collaborative Co-Parent, Gabriella guides separated parents away from adversarial communication toward a structure grounded in clear boundaries and intentional dialogue, centered on one core principle:

Child in the center. Not in the middle.

Her co-parenting initiatives focus on enabling parents to communicate more effectively post-separation, minimize unnecessary strife, and foster a family environment where children do not feel burdened by adult relationships.

The Four Pillars of Better Communication  

Years spent observing communication during high-emotion scenarios led Gabriella to establish a straightforward framework:

1. LISTEN.  

  Understand the underlying message before crafting your response.

2. PAUSE.  

  Create space between your emotions and your reactions.

3. REFLECT.  

  Challenge your assumptions, history, and interpretations during the conversation.

4. RESPOND.  

  Choose your next steps rather than letting emotions dictate your actions.

The Four Pillars extend far beyond intimate relationships; Gabriella employs this framework across co-parenting, leadership, workplace conflicts, negotiations, and challenging discussions.

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[DISCOVER THE COLLABORATIVE CO-PARENT]

STAY IN THE CONVERSATION

The Modern Relationship Edit

Relationships are evolving.  

So are the conversations needed about them.

Join Gabriella's exploration of modern relationships, communication, culture, love, and the unspoken thoughts often harbored behind closed doors.

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Before it breaks, engage in the conversation.  

Relationships.  

Teams.  

Families.  

Careers.  

While the context changes, human behaviour often remains consistent. Gabriella's work focuses on revealing the underlying dynamics and facilitating discussions that may reshape the future.